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Feminism

I totally agree with the thing about domestic abuse. While domestic abuse victims are more commonly women, it can happen to men too. People often feel this sort of things is impossible and this relates back to the stereotypes I was talking about that are holding us back. People say that since men are the stronger sex, they could never be overpowered by a woman. However, these views are not views shared by feminists. These are views shared by people with patriarchal thinking. Feminists have been advocating for total equality and there are many movements that focus on domestic abuse against men. There is one in England that I heard of, i think 40% of men there suffer from domestic violence. They did an experiment where they had a guy abuse his girlfriend in public and people stepped in immediately. But when they had a woman abuse her boyfriend in public, people just laughed. It was disgusting. I think man-spreading and man-splaining are complex issues, so I apologize if what I say makes little sense... Man-spreading: Dictionary defines manspread as this: Word Origin verb (used without object), Informal. 1. (of a man) to sit with one's legs far apart, taking up too much space on a seat shared with other people: Some people say that man-spreading is simply because of biology but to be honest, I don't think that matters because I think it is rude, regardless if a man or woman does it. I know from experience how annoying it is when someone takes up more than the space necessary. Yes, spreading their legs might make them more comfortable but it can't be that uncomfortable. In restaurant, men sit in chairs with their legs closed. In school too. They don't seem to be terribly uncomfortable. They don't usually spread their legs. In public transport, people (men and women) just need to be more considerate of space. If you search up man-spreading, you'll see pictures of men taking up 2, even 3 seats which is a little extreme if you ask me. Taking up 1.5 seats or 2 might be a little less anointing/justifiable, but 3?? The reason it is called man-spreading is because generally women don't it. Women are taught to cross their legs and studies have shown that women generally take up less space than men (for a variety of reasons). Also, Mic did a study and found that women who man-spread were glared/stared at and even filmed while no one noticed when a man did it. I think since women don't manspread nearly as often as men, it is called manspreading. The whole manspreading police, I am not too sure about that. I think if you sit next to someone who is taking too much space, you should tell them. We don't need "police" haha. http://www.independent.co.uk... Mansplaining: Merriem-Webster defines it as the following: Mansplaining is, at its core, a very specific thing. It's what occurs when a man talks condescendingly to someone (especially a woman) about something he has incomplete knowledge of, with the mistaken assumption that he knows more about it than the person he's talking to does. Empirically men have thought themselves to be smarter/better than women. Especially in the past, nowadays it is more implicit I think. Obviously not every man thinks "Wow, I am smarter than a woman." but we do many things unconsciously. We all have implicit bias, whether we know it or not. I have it. You have it. It isn't out fault, it is how we have been raised. This implicit bias makes us do things that we don't even think about. Like seeing a woman and explaining a topic to her, in a condescending tone, even if we don't know it very well. I understand that not all men see a women and think she is not knowledgeable, but it is called mansplaining because it is usually men that do it to women. A woman could do it to a man but it is not as common. A lot of people make the mistake that feminists are claiming that ALL men suck, we aren't. Feminists are saying we all do things like that and it is holding us back as a society. And we want to work on that. Things like man-splaining and man-spreading have very gray areas. Is the man doing it because she is a woman? Is he sexist? Or is he just explaining something to someone (that he knows little about) and the person happens to be a woman? Is the guy sexist or is he just kind of rude? It's hard to tell. I know. I think we just need to stop behavior like this regardless of the person's reasons for doing it. It is rude behavior regardless of whether the man is sexist or doesn't realize he is being kind of annoying. These names only have "man" in them because it usually (not always but usually) men who do them. I fell like you are grouping feminists in with a group of people who are radical and insane. Feminists have not said men cannot be abused. If they have, they are radical feminists (feminazis) who I don't count as feminists to be honest. Any person who claims women are better than men are just as bad as people who say men are better than women. Don't let a few crazies fool you cause they're just crazy. "There have been cases where male domestic abuse help centers have been closed due to pressure, where are they supposed to go for help? if feminism supports equality then why are male shelters being shut down?" This is awful and I oppose this but again, I feel like you are blaming feminists for the inequality in our society when in actuality, they are trying to stop it. It is not feminists' fault that we have inequality, it is centuries of living in a pattern but when you try to break an old habit, it's hard. It's a slow process. In society, females are seen as the weaker sex, thus are seen as harmless. In court cases, judges usually give custody to women because they are "better mothers' and men are incarcerated at higher rates than women because women couldn't possibly be harmless, right? This is ridiculous but that's society for you (funny because I am in society...). Feminists are trying to get rid of silly, old-school thinking like this. "Another thing I would like to ask that if feminists claim that females are just as capable in ability as men then why do they back away from the flaws? If females can be just as good as men then females can just as bad as men. Likewise, why does no one work on the fact that their claim, that females are 'good', then (according to being equal) that men are just as 'good'?" Anyone who says something like that is not a feminist. They are a misandrist (sexism against men). Feminism is about lifting each other up to equality. Not about bringing each other down. It's unfortunate that people with incorrect views are driving people away form feminism. When I say I'm a feminist, people treat me different because they think I stand for a matriarchal society when in fact I stand for an egalitarian society.